Bronzeville

I have written previously about the current state of the black dollar in America which currently circulates and lives the community in an estimated 6 hours. This number is a stark contrast from the estimated year in which it took for the black dollar to leave the community in the 1960’s. According to the NAACP   black owned businesses are vastly underrepresented, accounting for less than 7% of all small owned businesses, even though we account for 13% of the population.   Research suggests that communities’ generational economic empowerment is linked to entrepreneurial success. Therefore, if we are serious about improving our communities, improving our schools, providing jobs we must  return to the communities of yesterday year..

During the start of the 20th Century we saw many areas become hubs for African American culture and development.  Between 1910 and 1920, a tremendous number of African Americans  journeyed to many areas including the south side of Chicago . The Douglas community area received the moniker “Bronzeville”  because of the large African American presence in the area. The 7 mile area included over 300,000 people before its down turn beginning around 1950.

Bronzeville’s businesses and community institutions  included Provident Hospital, the Wabash YMCA, the George Cleveland Hall Library,  Parkway Community House, the Michigan Boulevard Garden Apartments, Binga Bank and the Overton Hygienic Company. The businesses were more than alternatives to racially restricted establishments downtown. They were pillars of the community which helped to instill pride and contribute to the upward mobility of African Americans.

Bronzeville’s 20th century resurgence, which rivaled the Harlem Renaissance, is responsible for tremendous cultural and social advances. Pulitzer Prize recipient Gwendolyn Brooks, civil rights activist Ida B. Wells, and legendary musician Louis Armstrong were profoundly responsible for the area’s development and subsequent cultural crusade, which included advances in civil rights, jazz, blues and gospel music as well.

One school of thought advises that  Bronzeville fell into decline after the end of racially restricted housing. Upper and middle class families moved away, and over-population and poverty overwhelmed the neighborhood. During a recent interview  Larenz Tate submits another school  of thought which involves the Mafia and the Illinois State Lotto.

The Harlem Renaissance is mentioned in this piece that detailed the rise and fall of a similar but, little known  black community. However; I would be re-missed if I did not inform you that there where countless thriving all black communities around the nation. Black Wall  Street  was a very successful all black community in Tulsa Oklahoma which thrived from 1900-1921.

The area encompassed over 600 businesses and 36 square blocks with a population of 15,000 African Americans.  There were  pawn shops , brothels, jewelry stores, 21 churches, 21 restaurants , two movie theaters and a medical school. It was a time when the entire state of Oklahoma had only two airports, yet six Blacks owned their own planes. A local physician Dr. Berry owed the bus system and his average income was $500 a day in 1910. I said previously that the community thrived until 1921 because it was burned to the ground by the KKK on 6/1/1921. In the aerial  attack which spanned 12 hours an estimated  1500-3000 people where killed. This was the first and only time in United States history that our military has ever dropped a bomb on U.S. soil.  

Overtown” is one of Dade County’s poorest communities. The type of community like many around the nation that is filled with housing projects, easy access to guns and alcohol  which  begets the high crime rate. During the  1920’s, 30’s and 40’s  Overtown was Black Miami’s showcase, centerpiece, and mecca: a self-sustaining community filled with an entertainment district, shops, groceries, law offices — even a hospital.

Overtown was home to many of Miami’s successful black families. William A. Chapman Sr., a prominent black physician, lived and worked there. His house at Northwest Third Avenue and 11th Street is now used by Miami-Dade County Public Schools as a research center. There’s Dana Albert Dorsey, Miami’s first black millionaire, who made his fortune buying land. By 1965 much of Overtown had been razed for highway construction and “urban renewal.” Interstate 95, a ten lane expressway which today is Miami’s primary north-south artery, along with the East-West Dolphin Expressway (State route 836) were both constructed directly through the heart of Overtown during the 1960s. Later Metrorail, Miami’s new billion dollar urban mass transit system, was routed directly through the community causing further dislocation.

I choose these three examples of self sustaining black communities to shine a light on the disintegration of the black community. The  destruction of the black community has  happened overtly, covertly and systematically . In the first paragraph  we see another example of how integration  covertly  weakened the black community. The body of the work provides light on the direct unwavering racism that still existed and still exits  in this country. Have you checked Twitter or better yet, listened to Donald Trump?  The ending  section of the work highlights the systematic form of racism which  is the deadliest form. Anytime  blacks are not represented in “the meeting” but, more importantly “the meeting before the meeting” we will always get the short end of the stick. We don’t have to have the worse schools, gentrified neighbors or leaders that don’t reflect our needs etc but, we first have to awaken to the possibility.

“Know whence you came. If you know whence you came, there is really no limit to where you can go”.- James Baldwin.

 

 

 

 

Why is Oscar so white?

Arguably the most recognized trophy in the western world traces its origins to the year 1929. The Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences  wanted to bestow upon worthy recipients an honor that encouraged excellence of all facets of motion picture production.  As of 2015 2,947 8 1/2 pound gold plated academy awards have been given out.

Eddie Murphy is known today more so for his affable characters displayed in movies ” Norbit” and “Shrek”.  There was a time when Eddie Murphy was this brash outspoken comedian who challenged everything in popular culture. This included jokes on homosexuals, women dating men for status and racial injustice. In the above video Eddie Murphy openly admits that he was going to boycott the  1988 Oscars.

Eddie Murphy cited Hattie McDaniel, Sidney Poitier and Louis Gossett Jr. as the only black recipients of the award. Murphy would later make a joke that at the current rate someone black would win Oscar in 2004. Coincidentally Jamie Foxx won for Best Actor in a Leading Role for his portrayal of Ray Charles in 2004.

Sidney Poitier was honored for Best Actor in a Leading Role in 1963 but, it took nearly 40 years for Denzel Washington to be honored. In a 2008 interview Tavis Smiley asked  Denzel Washington about his response to the sentiment in the black community that he is not recognized for his work. Denzel Washington answered as only he could very seriously at first and then laughed it off “don’t get me wrong receiving acclaim is nice” as only he can. I received a great quote from the Denzel Washington interview he said ” man gives the award..God gives the reward”. I like that quote but, I also believe in a quote my father told me ” a man who stands for nothing  will fall for anything.

Jada Pinkett Smith has decided to boycott the 2016 edition of the Oscars because of the lack of black nominees. Jada Pinkett Smith speaks for the need for blacks to recognize there true power and the need to respect and hold themselves  in a higher regard. Jada Pinkett Smith also speaks about blacks keeping money in there communities in an effort to cultivate togetherness and independence from mainstream money and thought.

In the less then 40 hours since the posting of the video anybody with a blog has written on the subject and anybody with a mic has put it into’s someone’s face looking for a quote. In my mind it does nor really matter where you are on the issue. I personally love  people who take a stand on there own merits.  Jada Pinkett Smith took a stand for something that she believed was a crude injustice. In taking that stand she has raised awareness which has sparked dialogue that hopefully will lead to change.

I’m not saying I’m gonna change the world, but I guarantee that I will spark the brain that will change the world.   – Tupac Shakur

No Haiti, No Louisiana Purchase

“The prospect of a Black Republic is equally disturbing to the Spanish, the English and the Americans. Jefferson has promised that on the instant the French Army has arrived [in Haiti] all measures will be taken to starve Toussaint and rid us of these gilded Negroes, and we will have nothing more to wish for.”-  Napoleon Bonaparte

http://youtu.be/vXVMr7mLgjw

The Louisiana Purchase that I read in my grade school textbook does nothing to capture the overall climate or significance of the moment in history. The portrait painted of the consummate thinker and diplomatic Thomas Jefferson. Lewis and Clark exploring territories that made up The Louisiana Purchase  with the cinema of an episode featuring Bear Grylls.

It is true that Thomas Jefferson understood the value of New Orleans as he was willing to purchase it for 3 million dollars. Napoleon’s  offer to sale the  Louisiana Territory  for 15 million which today would be 215 million shows how desperate  Napoleon was. The biggest and most successful slave revolt in history denied Napoleon of his dream of a western empire built on international trade. This dream rested in Hispaniola’s (Haiti and the Dominican Republic’s) ability to farm sugar, coffee and tropical produce. The caveat being the port of New Orleans for the shipping and receiving of goods.

In 1789 while France was in the middle of the French Revolution Haitians where fighting for independence in Saint Dominique (Haiti). The “Rights of Man” act essentially gave free slaves and mulattoes rights similar to the separate but, equal laws enacted for blacks in 19th century America.  After much fall out the measure was retracted in 1791 which lead mass slave revolts creating who we know today as  Toussaint L’Ouverture. L’Ouverture would later say “he was born a slave with the soul of a free man”.

beard12a

Toussaint L’Ouverture which translates into “the one who finds an opening” is considered the black George Washington.  Toussaint L’Ouverture fought the French for 12 years fighting off three different regimens with former slaves he trained.  L’Ouverture’s rallying cry was “egalite” which translates to liberty, equality and fraternity.

By 1802 the Haitian rebellion lead by Toussaint L’Ouverture had succeeded in killing 55,000 French soldiers. The relentless effort by former slaves slowly made Napoleon reconsider his thoughts prompting a peace treaty. In 1803  Napoleon agreed to recognize Haitian independence and later that year a tired Napoleon sold the territory that made up the Louisiana Purchase.

In it my belief that The Haitian Revolution is the most profound revolution ever realized by human beings. It is the only revolution were slaves created a nation but, nobody wants to talk about it.

–  Jean Claude Martineau

Words with Friends

I have a love of words and have for as longs as I can remember. I love playing with words or word play which is actually a play on words.  If you have ever told or laughed at a “that’s what she said joke” you witnessed a “double entendre”. A double entendre is a figure of speech or particular wording that is devised to be understood in either of two ways.

I was recently having a conversation about communication and I would learn quickly that I was out of my element. You see I like to converse about a variety of subjects and I have been told I can be long winded like a Baptist minister. I can talk endlessly about sports or life lessons but, I learned I was not always communicating or being an effective communicator.  Communication is defined as the verbal/non verbal exchange of information that requires a response.

I think we all could agree that being an effective communicator means conveying an articulate message with easy to follow directives.  In addition an effective communicator needs to listen showing verbal and nonverbal cues. The cues if used properly ease the speaker therefore he/she communicates openly and honestly. After receiving the information the receiver  needs to respond in a way that affirms the speaker i.e repeating the information back to him/her.

If you know anyone that is married they will tell you that marriage is difficult especially the first year.  In the opening scene we find Whitley waking up early in the morning to brush her teeth so Dwayne will be affectionate. In the episode Whitley continues sending subliminal message to Dwayne before  turning to talk show host Montell Williams for advice. In the end she turns to her  friends  before finally opening up to Dwayne.

I can attest to being passive aggressive at times and also simply  not being a good active listener.  I also can attest to speaking with friends/family instead of the person that I have the issue with. At the end of the episode like in life we learn that genuine care, concern and selflessness goes along way in the art that is communication.

The episode in its entirety brings to light poor communication practices  that are displayed in  relationships. I used Dwayne and Whitley as an example for interpersonal conflict more so than men vs women.  I chuckle as I advise this blog was not intended to solve the conundrum that is man/female communication.

 

 

The “Three Strikes” bill through the looking class

Former President Bill Clinton speaking this past summer at a N.A.A.C.P convention admitted over incarceration was a serious problem in America. As the speech continued the former President acknowledged the fundamental flaw within the 1994 Violent Crime Control and Law Enforcement Act and other legislature passed during his administration. The former President was quoted as saying “the bill went too far in sending even minor criminals to prison for way to long”.

The 1994 crime bill included the federal “three strikes” provision, mandating life sentences for criminals convicted of a felony after two or more prior convictions, including drug crimes. In the full  N.A.A.C.P convention speech and other recent speeches former President Clinton speaks of the crime bills impact solely on a federal level but, that is inaccurate. Under the bill, states that required offenders to serve without possible early parole (truth- in-sentencing law) were granted funding for new prisons. By 1999 29 states had truth-in-sentencing laws and 24 had three strikes laws.

There are now more than 2.2 million people behind bars nearly double the number incarcerated when former President Clinton took office. The aforementioned figures equates to around 700 prisoners per 100,000 people. According to the Bureau of Justice Statistics, 37 percent of the 1.5 million men in state and federal prison in 2013 were black, more than twice the percentage of their share of the population. Nicholas Turner of the Vera Institute advises that a black baby born today has a 1 & 3 chance of spending time in prison/jail and a Latino baby has a 1 & 6 chance.

The former first lady Hillary Clinton was a huge supporter of the bill in 1994 calling it “a well thought out crime bill that is both smart and tough”. Hillary Clinton was also quoted as saying “we will finally be able to say loudly and clearly that for repeat violent, criminal offenders: three strikes and you’re out. We are tired of putting you back through the revolving door”.

On the heels of nationwide protests along with a presidential run Hillary Clinton has come out as a big proponent of lowering prison populations and requiring police officers to wear body cameras. Most recently on the subject of the treatment of low level offenders which coincidentally the 1994 crime bill failed Hillary Clinton advised: “keeping them behind bars does little to reduce crime but, it does a lot to tear apart families and communities”.

Dating made easy from the mind of a dreamer…

I recall the vivid early memories that come to mind about the opposite sex. The stories jump out of my mind in the way like the rhythm of Morgan Freeman’s voice in The Shawshank Redemption or the strength in James Earl Jones voice in The Lion King. I think to myself it all flowed so smooth like Dennis Haysbert who voices the Allstate commercials.

It’s funny because I was talking with a female friend about that “like” that you had for someone as a child. You where maybe 8, 9, or 10 and there was this boy or girl in your class that you just “liked”. It may have been there eyes, hair, shoes, lunch snacks or just the way they said your name. She said he Keerrrrrry (Kerry) as she whistled by blushing. Things are much simpler for children because that “like” is enough for them. Children can go along liking him/her until the day a new kid joins class and that’s it the “like” is gone like it never was there. There was never an awkward date, awesome one night stand or a tumultuous break-up…just a “I’m sharing my snack with Ashley not Brittney today”.

I recently had a moment that harkens back to childhood  as I found a woman interesting without actually knowing much about her. The little I knew about her were all the qualities that I loved so in my mind I built her into near perfection. As I smile big you could say “I liked her” in the way that I liked Candace who I shared my sunflower seeds with in 2nd grade. The thing with being an adult the “newness” of such feelings are usually long gone if we can even recognize such feelings. Also, as adults waking up one day and finding another “like” is not the answer. We have to explore and or have the answer to everything. If we don’t have an answer we make up a “NO” in our mind as to why “it” wouldn’t have worked anyway.

A large part of me wanted to hold on to the feelings even if they were built on a fallacy. You see people deep down want to believe in something. In the way the partners in the strained marriage want to believe “this time will be different”. People ask sometimes how in the world scam artist get rich off the most ascinine schemes. Along the same vein people act surprised when politicians and clergy are caught in a scandal when the writing was always on the wall. The more whimsical, dramatic and or theatrical the entity makes it all the easier for the believer to get sucked into.

In the 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene he speaks of the power of information and deception in several chapters. He speaks about the ability of people using slight of hand to create larger than life personas. With the lack of information a person’s good qualities are accentuated and without any bad qualities known they appear almost mythical. A part of me was torn on what to do. Maybe torn was a strong word. I was rather content on keeping the “like” that I had for this woman even if it was fictional. If I became involved with this woman inevitably I would see all of her flaws and the fictional “like would be replaced. Replaced by what you ask? It would have been replaced by something “real” which good or bad would not be as whimsical as the ideas made up in my head.

The book judged by its cover…..

“It’s easier said than done. I read this book it’s called  How The Mind Works and I couldn’t make it all the way through I prolly made it half way through…Cause it was real…I feel like I was in over my head in terms of like how smart it was. But it was all like how the mind works…and the mind works in patterns like you see a tree because you see a pattern of leaves and barks and you know… an your mind says oh that pattern equals tree.

If the mind does work like that in patterns stereotypes would be natural…you know what I mean…I would think. But I can meet somebody that’s like Puerto Rican…19 and have genuine interactions with this type of person to the point where I know them. My patterns and my stereotypes about this type of person are a little more informed. There still not all the way accurate but, it’s like a little more well informed then a bunch of people in this world that have never had real interactions with real 19 year old Puerto Ricans… are like young black males or black people period or minorities period. The problem is most people’s opinions of these people who they’ve never met is all like given…the information is given by television and stereotypes that like already exist in the media which are never accurate…which develop untrue patterns in peoples mind…I guess that’s what a stereotype really is..

  • Jermaine Cole

Jermaine Cole continued advising that it was natural for your brain to function in that way but, it was f*ck*d up that it was every programmed that way. In listening to Jermaine’s take on the act of judging people and its central relationship to stereotypes it made me think. What if I could quantify the negative impact stereotypes have? It also made me consider the effect that stereotypes play in racism, sexism and classism. Racism, sexism and classism are deeply rooted ideals that rest in some individuals to the point where it’s like breathing. I pose the question of where did the aforementioned individuals get their beliefs from. I would mostly likely say from a source that provided them an untrue representation of the opposing race, gender, class etc.

There was this little kid named Teddy in Ms. Thompson’s 4th grade. The very non- descript young man came to class every day albeit with wrinkled clothes to go with a dis-shelved appearance. You see Teddy’s mother had died the previous year and he was having a hard time. Neither did the other kids or Ms. Thompson care for Teddy or his situation. One day Ms. Thompson had a lot of gifts on her desk as it was Teacher Appreciation Week. Teddy came with a paper bag that contained cheap half used perfume and an old bracelet as Ms. Thompson took it and thanked Teddy. After class Teddy complimented Ms. Thompson advising that “she smelled just like his mother and her bracelet looked good on her”. Ms. Thompson got on her knees later that day and apologized to God. Ms. Thompson prayed to not only teach her students but, to love her students from that day forth.

Ms. Thompson’s students went on to have a great year but, Ms. Thompson did not hear from Teddy for a long time. One day Teddy came back to her and advised that he was graduating as his high school’s salutatorian. A few years after that Teddy came back and told Ms. Thompson that he was graduating as his university’s valedictorian. Ms. Thompson thought “wow” what a great story but, it was just beginning. Again one day some years later out of nowhere Teddy came back and told Ms. Thompson that he was the medical director at a hospital and he was also getting married. Ms. Thompson was happy for Teddy and suddenly shocked as he asked her to sit in his mother’s place at his wedding. Ms. Thompson again got on her knees but, this time she was thanking God for using her.

I think about all of the things that were going through Ms. Thompson’s head about this “dirty kid”. I’m thinking about her beliefs may have even clouded her ability to teach Teddy but, I don’t know for sure. My sister told me once “my son can’t go with everyone”. I asked why as she replied “the person has to love my child because if something happens I know he or she will protect my son as I would”. I take that and compare it to the career that Ms. Thompson was able to have after she began to teach from her heart not her head.

In the society we live in today I imagine the 2015 version of Ms. Thompson would have called in a CPS case. This kid is “dirty” and he is always eating so his dad is “likely not feeding him”. Imagine if CPS got involved and say Teddy’s house is not the cleanest thing in the world… what then?

We potentially take Teddy out of the only home he has ever known. We take Teddy away from the person that he loves most. Is it safe to assume Teddy does not grow up to be Dr. Teddy? On a side note I heard a comedian who was once in the foster care system give the best commentary on social services I’ve ever heard. “Foster care is when the state takes kids out of abusive/neglectful situations and places them in another abusive/neglectful situation”. I was in tears and on the floor laughing. The point is not to bash social services as they try their best. I just wanted to highlight the approach we take in handling situations after our judgement has been clouded by stereotypes and a cynical nature.

Every dirty kid is not being mistreated or going without love. Every self-proclaimed “red neck” who voted for George Bush and loves “Ducky Dynasty” is not a racist. Not every black person knows or even cares about what happened in Ferguson, Missouri or South Carolina. Not every young woman that likes to party and have pre-marital sex has “daddy issues”. Every Middle Eastern male with a turban is not a terrorist as some know way more about rapper Drake than they do about Osama Bin Laden.

The study depicted clearly highlights socialization as the key to stereotypes. Children and adults   who have had genuine interactions with a particular race etc. look at that entity less stereotypically. I was having a conversation with a co-worker who is from England about race. I went on this retort about being a black man in America and Leon let me finish as he began to smile. He said Kerry if you walked around in the UK “I’m black this and black that” people would think you were crazy. I said why Leon? He said there’s “just men” in the UK nobody cares how dark or light as you would never been identified by race or color.

“The media’s the most powerful entity on Earth. They have the power to make the innocent guilty and to make the guilty innocent, and that’s power. Because they control the minds of the masses”.

  • Malcom X

Stepping outside the gun line…..boss

Who taught you to hate the texture of your hair? Who taught you to hate the color of your skin? To such extent you bleach, to get like the white man. Who taught you to hate the shape of your nose and the shape of your lips? Who taught you to hate yourself from the top of your head to the soles of your feet? Who taught you to hate your own kind? Who taught you to hate the race you belong to so much so that you don’t want to be around each other? No…Before you come asking Mr. Muhammad does he teach hate, you should ask yourself who taught you to hate being what God has made you.

There can be no black- white unity until there is first some black unity. We cannot think of uniting with others, until after we have first united among ourselves. We cannot think of being acceptable to others until we have first proven acceptable to ourselves.

  • Malcolm X

“This is where we are right now. It’s a racial stalemate we’ve been stuck in for years. Contrary to the claims of some of my critics, black and white, I have never been naïve to believe that we can get beyond our racial divisions in a single election cycle, or with a single candidacy imperfect as my own. But I have asserted a firm conviction- a conviction rooted in my faith in God and my faith in the American people- that working together, we can move beyond some of our old radical wounds, and that in fact we have no choice if we are to continue on the oath of a more perfect union”.

President Barack Obama wrote those prophetic words in a speech in 2008. I believe President Obama was acknowledging his place in the struggle for equality for all while also championing the masses to do their part because he was not the savior. I actually don’t think the nation will know the effects of President Obama until many years later because he was looked at as a savior and not a man. We could appreciate and also measure Michael Jordan’s greatness because we had seen Oscar Robertson, George Gervin and Julius Irving.  If we had never seen those men we would do what we as people always do with something different. Were dismissive, indifferent or we inaccurately measure it because again we have no measuring stick. President Obama is a cake made without measuring cups given to a person who lacks taste buds.  

You hope and you pray and then you hope and pray some more but, deep down you know. Looking at the landscape of America I knew that the problems of Ferguson, Missouri the problems of Baltimore, Maryland, the problems of Staten Island, were my problem. Do you know why? I knew that these were my problems because these cities are not special or unique in any way. The judicial system is run just like any other court system in America. The police officers are trained like any other moderately funded to well-funded police force in America. Last but, certainly not least people of color live in these areas and last time I checked racism knows not area or zip code. What did I say when I saw the video of the white officers manhandling teenage blacks in McKinney, Texas not 30 minutes from my door? Unfortunately I said “I knew you were coming to my house…come in and sit racism”.

The climate in America today is so charged racially, sexually and economically but, it’s like everything is interwoven. The haves loathe the have not’s. The minority hates the majority and nobody actually believes the economy is as stable as it seems. Higher Learning is a 1995 film directed by John Singleton that follows three distinctively different freshmen. Malik (Omar Epps) is the black track star who feels entitled while also feeling controlled as a prized bull of sorts as the school pays his tuition. Remy (Michael Rapaport) is a young white male from the Midwest who has a hard time fitting in with any group. Remy finds his way to a group of white supremacist after being picked on by his militant black roommate. Lastly Kristen (Kristy Swanson) is the wide eyed blonde that might as well be from Mayberry with aunt bee. Kristy makes an early bad decision that leads to her being raped which leads her right into the sympathetic arms of a lesbian.

The film succeeds overwhelming in comparing and contrasting university life as a microcosm for the world at large. Where else can you find a Walmart sample platter of everything the world has to offer? The movie also poses a great question and answer of how people respond to the pressures of life and interaction with very different people around you. Do you assimilate? Do you fight the system? Do you quit? It is as much a movie about racism and social injustice as it is a movie about choices and the ramifications of said choices. In the end of the movie much like the world at large it takes a school shooting (incident) at the Peace Festival of all places to put things in perspective.

“President Kennedy never foresaw that the chickens would come home to roost so soon…Being an old farm boy myself, chickens coming home to roost never made me sad; they always made me glad.”

  • Malcom X

The events that have transpired in America are far from “A black thing”. The “black thing” concept is an event or action that evokes sympathy and pity from mainstream America. The kind of event that also makes mainstream America fearful as black’s loot and destroy their own community. I will never understand destroying the community you live in but, I digress.  The “black thing “historically lasts a news cycle before the next major headline i.e. “gay rights”. However; in America today every major news market will run something tonight about racism.

At times I feel like social injustice for people of color in America is an endless race. We start and we run many laps but, without a defined end it appears an exercise on inequality. I think ….racism is all over the television but, what now? Then I see the taking down of the confederate flags in Mississippi, Alabama and Fort Sumter and I say that’s great. The flag that is a symbol of the old south and all the wounds that accompany the South’s racially charged path.

I just ask why did Dylan Root and 9 innocent church goers have to spark the change. Have the NAACP not fought for the flags to be taken down for years and years? Is the climate of hatred and lawlessness not already so great in America that we understand that an injustice anywhere is an injustice everywhere? James Boulware a white man opened fire on the Dallas Police Department with no central motive. Is one educated fellow not to make the correlation or see the pattern of senseless violence? When have police ever been attacked let alone in broad day light? It is clear now more than ever that racism in America is everyone’s problem. I hope working towards a solution is everyone’s answer.

I will never say that progress is being made…If you stick a knife in my back 9 inches and pull it out 6 inches there’s no progress….if you pull it all the way out that’s not progress…the progress is healing the wound that the blow made”.

Malcolm X

Everybody Hates Cuba

Everybody loves Raymond is a comedic sitcom featuring lead character Ray Barone who is played by comedian Ray Romano. The series is loosely based on characters from Romano’s life. In the series Ray is constantly berated by his wife about what he is not doing and his mother about…well his wife. Still yet Ray pulls it together and by episodes end he usually receives his mother’s approval and his wife’s affection. Ray seems to be the man that catches all of the breaks. Ray is the first born son and we all know what comes with that. Ray is also known around town as a successful sports columnist. This is where his younger brother Robert comes in. Robert resents the adulation Raymond receives from their parents, his marriage an overall success. Robert internalizes those feelings and they turn into habitual self-loathing. When in actuality nobody hates Robert they just treat him differently because he’s.. well.. not Ray.

Does America really hate Cuba or do they just treat them differently because there say…not China? We see China as a contemporary but, Cuba may be the little brother that got tired of being the little brother? If America does actually hate Cuba why do they? When did the alleged hatred begin?

As of May, 2015 the United States and Cuba announced they will continue talks with the goal of removing barriers to the reopening of embassies in Washington and Cuba. The two sides have been negotiating for nearly five months over the conditions for re-establishing diplomatic relations under the deal announced by Presidents Raul Castro and Barack Obama on December 17, 2014. The talks are said to be hung up over U.S. diplomats’ ability to import uninspected embassy supplies and travel in Cuba without restrictions.

We are quickly caught up on American and Cuban relations today but, that does not begin to tell the story. I think most Americans’ are familiar with Fidel Castro right? Most don’t know that the U.S. supported Castro as he attempted to overthrow Cuba’s then President Batista in 1958. The U.S. also supported him in the first few years of his reign.

If you google Nixon and Castro you will find pictures of the two meeting months after Castro became President of Cuba. In 1960 President Eisenhower imposed trade restrictions on Cuba on everything accept food and medical supplies. This was allegedly done because Cuba taxed U.S. exports excessively. In response to the trade restrictions Castro expanded trade with the Soviet Union. In response to that act the U.S. cut all diplomatic ties with Cuba. Do these acts sound like neighboring countries or what happens when the little brother no longer wants to be treated like the little brother? Also does it look like American leaders felt Castro was “ok” as the rebel overthrowing the government but, when he became president and did not take orders he was considered an outlaw?

The early series of events of the 1960’s breed discontent that would continue on both sides throughout the decade. The restrictions with trade nearly crippled Cuba’s economy. In 1962 U.S. spy planes discovered evidence that the Soviet Union were building missile bases in Cuba. The evidence led to the Cuban Missile Crisis which further fueled the disdain of American’s for Castro. There are several recorded attempts by the U.S. to overthrow the Cuban government during that time.

An interesting twist took place between Cuba and American in the immediate years following 1979 that is still a hot issue today. Fidel Castro offered members of the Black Panther Party and other revolutionaries who were persecuted political asylum. The political asylum offered is sandwiched between the Carter/Reagan administrations and the end of the Cold War

In 1973, Assata Shakur and two BLA (Black Liberation Army) members were stopped by two state troopers on the New Jersey Turnpike for a faulty taillight. Thirty years later it is still unclear the chronological order of events after the stop. However; a New Jersey state trooper was killed along with one of the men in the car with Shakur. Shakur proclaimed her innocence but, she was charged with murder. Assata Shakur spent six in a half years in prison before escaping from Clinton Facility for women in 1979 and making her way to Cuba sometime later.

Who cares about a former Black Panther who just happens to be Tupac Shakur’s aunt right? America does! In 2013 Assata Shakur was added to America’s Ten Most Wanted Terrorist list and any information directly leading to her capture is worth $2 million dollars. The renewed talks between the U.S and Cuba have stoked the fire as officials want pressure placed on Cuba to release fugitives. Immediately after the President’s announcement New Jersey Police issued a statement saying the move to normalize relations with Cuba has to include the return of Assata Shakur.

Teishman Latner is a post- doctoral fellow for the Center for United States and the Cold War at New York University has done extensive work on Assata Shakur and other U.S refugees. Latner writes that Shakur epitomized Cuba’s provision of sanctuary to American dissidents. “She embodies both the FBI’s campaign to retrieve fugitives from the island and the Castro government’s commitment to sanctuary even in the face of strong diplomatic pressure”. When asked what he believed Cuba wanted Latner replied “Cuba wants what Cuba has always wanted with the U.S. diplomatic equality and reciprocity”.

It’s very interesting to the writer that a “rebel” (Fidel Castro) is credited with the unrest between the states.  A “rebel” (Assata Shakur) is seen as the symbol of unrest my many and coincidentally may be the stumbling blocks to better relations between the nations.

“Remember, remember always, that all of us, and you are descended from immigrants and revolutionists”. “A revolution is not a bed of roses. A revolution is a struggle between the future and the past.” The quotes sound similar do they not? The first quote was written by Franklin D. Roosevelt. The second quote was written by Fidel Castro.

Amber, the rose that tried to grow from concrete……

“Getting engaged is like getting…it’s the first hurdle of the roller-coaster and you hear the click.. those loud sounds. This really violent metal chunk o-chunk o-chunking…. (You’re asking yourself) what’s going on here, you know. Boy this thing really goes high (in reference to the roller-coaster) and then you go over the top. The wedding is at the top…you go over the top that’s the wedding and then you’re just screaming”.

“Marriage is like any growth you can’t be ready for it because its growth it’s going to be new. You’re going to have a new life; you’re going to be a new person”. – Jerry Seinfeld

Am I the only one that receives wedding invitations having no idea the two parties were even dating? I ask myself “Kerry where have you been”. To my credit I’m not one for competing or much less keeping an eye on the Jones’s. On a larger scale I am that friend that has no idea what Kylie Jenner wore to the Grammy’s or who Drake is dating. I’m getting off topic. I don’t spend a lot of time on social media but, when I’m on there I am surprised by what I see. What am I seeing? I see a lot of proposals, bridal showers and weddings.

I’m sure there are many reasons to why those things jump out to me. The first I would say centers on age. I’m going strictly off perception but, I would guess individuals 18-28 get married more than any other age group. I would say the second reason surrounds my use of social media. For people like me that limit their social media use we have to realize the world never stops. If you don’t track someone for a year or two you will surely be surprised with the happenings in his/her life. The last surrounds my personal association with weddings. I have been a groomsman in two weddings in the last 18 months and have seen my sister, brother and father married in that span.

To say the least I was very intrigued as to what the numbers showed in relation to couples getting married in my age range. Is the percentage higher now than in years past? Is the number lower? How are those numbers reflected in the divorce rate? Lastly where does my ethnicity factor into the equation?

Have you ever performed research on marriage? The first information that jumps out at you and repeats in various publications is the rise in median marital age. The average age for women is 25.8 and 28.3 for men. The age group that has suffered the greatest decline in marriages is you guessed it 18-28. 20 % of individuals in that age range are married compared to 60% of that same age group 40 years ago according to the 2010 Census. According to the CDC the decline is related to an increase in cohabitation and single parenthood.

The Pew Research Center goes against the grain as it advises that public perception is mixed on the institution of marriage. Meaning as a nation we do not value the institution as in years past so thus the decline. The aforementioned premise was not supported in the various studies I observed but, I actually believe that the study does have some merit. The majority of the studies concluded that minorities who as we have learned marry less than whites still value the institution of marriage. The previous statement is not actually supported when it comes time to say “I do”. As of 2010 55% of black adults had ever been married compared with 64% of Hispanics and 76% of Whites.  According to the Census currently 45% of African American households contain a married couple. Blacks are significantly more likely than any other race to never marry, cohabit and bear children out of wedlock according to the Census. The national illegitimacy rate (children born out of wedlock) is 33% but, for blacks that number is more like 70%. Educational attainment or lack thereof supports the aforementioned premise more than most give credence.

A study called “Women’s Education and Their Likelihood of Marriage” performed by professor Paula England expounded on the previous topic. The study found that 75% of college educated women are married, compared to 70% of those who attend some college and 60% with only high school education. According to (blg.com) college graduates are 20% to 30% less likely to divorce than non-graduates which is a good segue to divorce rates. Men 20 to 24 divorce at a rate of 38.8% percent which is higher than any other age range. Women share the same age ranges but, there clip is 36.6%. The website divorcesaloon.com has the divorce rate for blacks currently at 70%.

Looking over all the facts and figures from the CDC, Census and countless studies I was not satisfied. I settled myself as the disintegration of the black family started long ago and as blacks we perpetuate that cycle in various ways. I did find solace in information received on discoverthenetworks.org that gave me hope. Black two parent families where both parties work full time have a mere 2% poverty rate which leads me to my conclusion. We have to breakdown why blacks want to get married but, don’t and also why we divorce higher than any other race. I’m not sure how to correct the problem but, I know it first starts with ME. I went to college and I’m waiting to get married. I need to choose a partner that helps support our family spiritually and financially as we shape and nurture our child(s) views. I didn’t see any marriages up close as a kid and to think my son could see 4/5 just with his dad, aunts, uncle and grandfather. I think that’s a step in the right direction.

I feel like I’m a planet and the other woman are kind of moving through this solar system with me. And marriage is like you decide to jump off of your planet and cross to another planet. But you can only do it when one planet passes real close and you look and say “hey I think I can jump across”.

– Jerry Seinfeld